SHOT IN THE HEAD … October’s Lament

IMG_0980‘Lament’ is probably the wrong word (but maybe not)… as whilst I’m lamenting – I’m not bitter, nor sad and, albeit THOROUGHLY EXHAUSTED, I’m trying not to dwell on my life’s journey through the past couple of months. It’s been a pig of a year, but I’m not pessimistic as a rule.  My heart is always filled with optimism – But, when the chips are down – I’m a realist.   After a hellish time, Archie’s back at school today – which is a MAJOR test.  I feel like my right arm has been ripped off at source because I’ve been caring for him 24/7 for the best part of the last two months.  We had a mad hour at home this morning (I actually slept well last night – which is almost unheard of, and as such unconsciously knocked my alarm on snooze and when I eventually realised I should have been up an hour previously, I removed myself from my pit at the speed of a salted slug.  That sleep was SO good) but, after much ado he made it out the door!


Damn it!!  That was my concerted effort to blog on Friday (30th October – end of the month … best laid plans and all that!)!

…  It’s now Tuesday, and, not wanting to sound like a broken record, as well as looking the epitome of the proverbial bag lady, … BUT an awful lot has happened since I started this post!!

I shan’t tell you all the gritty details, that despite having Archie out of hospital after nigh on 6 weeks and back at school, albeit by the skin of his grinding teeth, there have been more than a few hiccups, I’ve been back in A&E this time with my father, and my husband’s working overseas … To say the past three hectic days my life has pretty much imploded is an understatement, but I refuse to be beaten.  I am every inch as broken as I look, every one of those bags beneath my tired eyes has been terrifyingly well earned and every sigh I’m emitting is Oscar-worthy –  But I shan’t whimper … instead I shall sip my hot water (alcohol is currently forbidden whilst I’m in charge and on high alert) and, whilst I’m inwardly cowering – I shall outwardly rejoice on the good things that October has conjured up …


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In between the dark hours of hospital life – I spent a few hours with my Dad and my two youngest celebrating my Aunt and Uncle’s Golden Wedding.  It was really lovely to see family and friends that we don’t see anywhere near often enough .. but it was bitter sweet that my lovely Mum wasn’t there to celebrate with her brother and family and also that Archie and Pete were noticeably absent.  My Uncle’s local golf club (Malton & Norton Golf Club) put on a wonderful spread.  Jem was particularly struck by the mouthwatering proportions and it was really good to spend some time with him and Scarlett – as I’d been giving my all to Archie!


I’ve noticed that my Mum’s rose has been blossoming beautifully the past few weeks … so I’m pretty certain she’s watching over us and quite possibly rolling her eyes at all our antics!



A really good read.  This one had me gripped and managed to while away a couple of sleepless nights in hospital.  I’d definitely recommend it.   It’s an easy read and a bit ‘tweenage’ but I enjoyed the cut and thrust of the storyline and the intrigue kept me guessing.


IMG_0204 (2) The best thing to happen last month, by far, was finally getting my little man out of hospital.   We’ve still got a really long way to go, and he only returned to school the other day – but, we’re on the right track.

 IMG_9962My nursing duties have gone up exponentially but I’ve got my medical head on and have every faith in my newly learned duties (famous last words!)!



Once we got Archie settled in and Dad trained up on the medical front, Jem and I escaped to London for the day for a casting.  It was great to combine a bit of fun with Jem’s talent.  It was a late train back – but we managed to use our time wisely by visiting Platform 9 and 3 quarters and the Harry Potter shop at Kings Cross Station, and we had to have the obligatory photo call.  I’m thrilled with Jem’s … you’ll note I haven’t posted mine!!



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Anyone who knows us knows just how much my little man loves his rugby.  Not only is he making his mark playing for his much loved local team, Yarnbury RFC, and dancing on the pitch for his beloved Rhinos, but he loves nothing more than watching his favourite team from the sidelines too!

Jem’s been such a superstar helping Dad keep things together whilst I’ve been out of the picture looking after Archie, that when the opportunity arose to take Jem and his pal Callum to see the Rhino’s match against New Zealand it was a dream come true.  (Massive THANKS to the lovely Penelope Davidson and Jason Davidson – Head Conditioner for Leeds Rhinos for making this happen).  My little man was jumping out of his skin and we all thoroughly enjoyed it.  The Rhino’s put up a great fight and we honestly thought they were in with a chance, but sadly the Kiwis did what they do best.  The Kiwi’s haka was a sight to behold  and Jem was beyond  thrilled when he got to meet a few of his Rhino idols after the game.  He was especially thrilled when Ash Golding  a recent signing for the Rhinos and set tipped for a great future with the club after his outstanding ‘Man of the Match’ display, took the time to have a picture taken with him!

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Just a day out of hospital and in desperate need of some fresh air and exercise I let Jem coerce me into a scouting enterprise!

As part of the Million Hands Project, Cookridge Methodist Scouts joined forces with the local Cubs and Girl Guides to help clear the grounds of the Bedford Arms Public House in Cookridge.  This initiative brought together youthful energy and adult manpower to help turn around the site ready for it’s reinvention by OPAL as a functional building for their members.

Despite the persistent rain I was more than happy to don my Ilse Jacobsen’s (possibly the comfiest waterproof boots around EVER and worth every one of their ridiculously expensive pennies – especially now my dancer’s calves have turned to ‘cankles!!’) to get stuck in.  In the two hours that we were there such an impression was made and it was great to be a part of a good deed.



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To divide my time equally (3 kids – pah – what was I thinking?) it was only fair that a day was dedicated to No 3.  So, on Sunday afternoon I took Scarlett and her friend Abigail, via the park and naughty nibbles, to a Pet Pal Activity session at Pets At Home where they learnt all about Little Furries.  It was an interactive session (lasting approximately 30 minutes – although we were there nearly an hour!) where a trained member of staff imparted lots of knowledge about the animals and let the girls handle lots of small furry things (hamsters, chinchillas, degu, gerbils, rabbits, etc), whilst they bombarded him with a squillion questions, not all of which were animal related (poor fella!).  They thoroughly enjoyed themselves and I had to draw the line at pocketing their new furry friends.   I made it my job to thoroughly check pockets for Russian Dwarf Hamsters before we left the store – ensuring the only things we’d gained were their well-earned certificates!  I have a sneaking suspicions that small furry things will be appearing on at least two letters to Santa this year!!



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We love Halloween in our house, (any excuse), so the dressing up and make up boxes got a good airing the other week.  I let Scarlett loose on my face first and she made a really good fist of my skeleton face.    I then had a play around myself and with a little help from YouTube managed to shoot myself in the head!  Whilst I was on nursing duties Pete took the kids round the neighbourhood to fill themselves full of sugar – whilst I camped on the doorstep … we must have had more than 25 callers.  I particularly liked the teenage boys who rocked up with plastic masks on (poor effort) – when I turned up at the door mid Archie sorting with a frantic look on my face, 2 syringes in my hands and a bullet wound to the head.  Until then I wasn’t sure my efforts were all that – but their reactions definitely restored my faith in my make up abilities… Still I was taught by the best MAC artist Terry back when I was a Harvey Nic’s chick!



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Funny how I’ve been playing with Scarlett’s hair such a lot since I knew that she was having it all cut off!  Massive thanks to Elnett – 2 cans in 2 weeks must be a record!

Scarlett is super excited … we’ve been counting down the days until she visits the lovely Wendy down at Tranquility Day Spa … Friday the 13th is so very close now … Eeeeek.  The more we talk about it – the more I want to have mine done too … so I’m thinking the pair of us might both be having a change.  I’m SUPER proud of her and she’s already raised a very impressive amount.  If you haven’t donated and would like to please visit .  Every penny really does count and it’s for a great cause. THANK YOU.

Right … it’s after 9pm – all 3 children are in bed (although not quite in the Land of Nod) – and no crises have occurred in at least an hour.  So, there’s a glass of fizz with my name on it and I make no excuses ….  In fact I have it on good authority (Telegraph and Forbes) that 3 flutes of champagne a day aid Dementia, so in my reckoning I’ve got some swift work to do!

Chin chin (who’s counting?) …

Champagne this way


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